People say you can tell a lot about someone’s character based on how they handle defeat. I have been faced with a number of rejections lately and figured I’d post on some of the types of responses available. Since the majority of the rejections I’ve received have taken place over email, the focus of this post is in responding via email. Ultimately I think some response is better than no response.
Say Nothing:
- Sometimes you think this an impressive response indicating that things are going so well, you’re too busy to even bother.
- Sometimes you mean for the other person to go f*** off. Make sure you realize that this is the most likely interpretation.
Say Something (Positive):
- A curt, but gracious reply. Leave the door open to some future relationship potential
- Some people will use the opportunity for a last minute grab: pointing out a miscalculation, a likely oversight or otherwise providing new information. You’re indirectly asking for re-consideration
Say Something (Negative):
- Passive aggressive sarcasm is something I have had used on me often. The goal here is an indirect insult making sure that persons gets the last word in. Ugh
- Directly insult or otherwise harshly criticize the person, or the process. This never benefits you down the road
Say A Lot:
- Write a mini-essay on why you believe that a poor decision was ultimately arrived but make clear you are accepting the decision
- Write a mini essay essentially begging for reconsideration. Rehash the process, provide clear evidence and ask for some specific next action
Which do you do? Which do you prefer if you’re a frequent rejecter?
